What we all want

Consider this, folks;

Men tend to dislike women who are perceived as whiny, clingy, possessive, dependent. It would seem that we want our other halves to be more independent, more determined, assertive (yet not too confrontational) and rational. Much as men perceive themselves to be.

Women, in my observation of the species, see men as aggressive, insensitive, unfeeling, closed-minded. It seems they want their men to be empathic, understanding, conciliatory, open-minded. Much as women perceive themselves to be.

So for all our talk of trying to understand the opposite sex, is it in fact the case that all we want is another version of ourselves? Is the whole human race basically narcissistic?